The following article makes some interesting points on why youth leave the church, despite our attempts to be 'relevant':
“We’ve taken a historic, 2,000 year old faith, dressed it in plaid and skinny jeans and tried to sell it as ‘cool’ to our kids,” writes Marc Yoder. “It’s not cool. It’s not modern. What we’re packaging is a cheap knockoff of the world we’re called to evangelize.”
Authenticity is a big issue in youth culture. Our clumsy (however well-intentioned) attempts at 'reaching the youth' by co-opting their culture can be immediately sensed by those who are 'in the know' and identified as being a cheap knockoff.
What We're Missing
Faith comes by hearing the Word of God (Romans 10:17) but alas! The Word is one of the first things to go in our 'relevant' church...
Evangelical leaders too often don’t preach/teach on the essential doctrines of Scripture because of their lack of confidence in the power of God’s Word to transform and because they don’t want to offend.